Fame, Sexuality and Taking a Stand

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If you haven’t seen it, you’ve heard about it. If you haven’t heard about it, you will. And if you haven’t formed your own opinion, you’ve had a chance to agree or disagree with someone else’s. It’s buzzing all over the internet for a wide variety of reasons with a multitude of reactions.


Miley Cyrus won the “queen of obscene” award at last night’s VMA’s, as some articles have stated. She gave a “raunchy performance” that “made many uncomfortable.”


And the headlines go on.


And the photos and video clips are everywhere.


And apparently we don’t sensor much anymore.


“Provocative” doesn’t begin to cover what happened on stage last night. Truly friends, my heart grieves for our culture. It grieves for the need to be remembered, the need to make a name for yourself. The need to shock and wow, and be one-of-a-kind, unforgettable.  And I’m saddened the way that this is done, and what is compromised and given up to get there.


It’s about Miley, but it’s not about Miley.


It’s about nudity and obscenity, but it’s about more than nudity and obscenity.


It’s humanity, and what is lost when someone “bares it all”…from their body to their sexuality…in public.


It’s what gets lost to gain.


To gain fame, reputation, a sense of worth in the eyes of the world.




And it’s also about what is happening behind the scenes that a 21 year old could take center stage in front of the world and do…all of that.



Brooke Shields was recapping it all on the NBC Today show: “I just sort of want to know who is advising her and why it’s necessary? I mean, with the whole finger thing….I feel like it’s a bit desperate.”


Brooke goes on to talk about the change in Miley…about how this isn’t the sweet girl she was on set with at Hannah Montana, how the VMA performance was uncomfortable, sad, and how Miley was just trying, so so hard.



I’m struck by her comment, “who is advising her?” There seems to be a glaring, and obvious issue: She is only 21 years old, and clearly there are people directing all of this. There are people telling her how to dress and what is a good idea and how to make headlines and what the next gig is to take on in her career.

But who?

Her parents? Her agents? People around her looking to make more off of her fame? Surely someone must be behind this, and that is part of what is so upsetting.



Brooke also goes on to talk about her own controversial career, all the things she learned and the heat she took in the beginning for things she did. Her co-anchor asks her about why she never reached the “levels” that Miley is at now. Her first response?


“I had a strong family.”



Her next statement:


“We didn’t have social media…it wasn’t as rampant as it is today.”


She goes on to talk about how she didn’t have control of her own money as a young actress, about how school was a priority, and how she didn’t just get to live “however she wanted to.”



Which is exactly the message of the song Miley was singing…


It’s our party we can do what we want
It’s our party we can say what we want
It’s our party we can love who we want
We can kiss who we want
We can sing what we want


Something is very, very broken in our world.




When kids, teens, and even adults begin to believe the lie that “only God can judge us”, and therefore, we can act however we want, say whatever we want, do whatever we want, we buy into a false sense of right and wrong, and live by entitlement. We ultimately trade in truth for a lie.


When we stop caring about how our words and actions affect other people, we begin living only for ourselves.


And when we live like that, we begin to lose our sense of morality.


And then the lines between good and evil begin to blur. 





It’s about social media, the messages it sends and the things it promotes and how it has changed our world drastically.


It’s about how the family unit, and how it has begun to deteriorate and how parents are not involved and kids are left to govern themselves.


It’s about how thrusting and gyrating and sexual motions on stage can be nothing more than a public performance of the arts.



It’s about what we are willing to tolerate, what we call good, and what we accept.


Albert Einstein said, “The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything.”


I am guilty of this more often than I would like to admit. Of being a bystander and shaking my head, but keeping my mouth closed. For fear of waves, of reactions, of offending someone. I try to stay neutral, and I believe there is wisdom to be found in keeping the peace. Facebook was not intended to be the place to “duke it out” with anyone and everything we disagree with.

I digress.


What I’m trying to say is what happened on stage last night, not just by Miley but by so many other performers, was wrong.


And we have accepted crude and offensive behavior on our TV’s, throughout our newsfeeds, all over our social media for far too long, and enough is enough.





Today, if nothing else, fight for morality, modesty and the sacredness of sexuality. Fight for humanity and the good that can be found in people. Fight for what you know is right, but do so in love. Beating people with a bible or what you believe to be truth never did anyone any good.


Lead by example.


Speak softly and be quick to listen.


And for the love of all good things, stop tolerating evil.


And I will try to do the same.















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